Newlywed? Challenges most new brides face!

Here are the difficulties most newly wed women face!

Marriage is no longer the only aim in our lives, thankfully! Things like better education, an established career, financial freedom, a healthy social life, all matter. In fact in the past two decades we as women have seen a positive change in the society.

Though all this has made us, women, more self-determining and stronger, it is still not a change that is willingly accepted especially in a traditional family. Arranged marriages can also prove to be difficult if your wavelength doesn’t match. Here are problems you might face and how to overcome them like a pro:

1. Sharing Room with a Man

Women are mostly concerned about cleanliness and hygiene so, it is NOT easy for them to share their room with someone. You may have survived with roommates before, but this is different. It takes more time than you ever assumed to get used to sharing your space, your room, your bed…with your husband.

Pro tip: Divide all the room tasks to maintain that cleanliness if you are a neatness freak. Do nit pick fights on petty issues.

2. Challenges in Work Routine

Nowadays, most women get married in their late 20s or early 30s. By this time, their career goals, office routine, work pattern, etc. are already set. In such a habitual routine they may have a problem in adjusting their schedule according to their in-laws.

Pro tip: Tell them during your ‘off’ period about your work routine and listen to their expectations. Some might want you to cook a meal before leaving. Adjustment is required on both sides.

3. Cooperating and adjusting with the in-laws

A very common problem that most girl face is adjusting with in-laws and especially in a joint family. Because, if you do get married into joint family, the liberated, determined woman in you might find it very challenging to compromise on your lifestyle. Especially things like the kind of clothes you like to wear, the social get-togethers you like to attend, your work timings, your food habits, and other such things can be tough to change to match your in-laws’ choices and tastes.

Pro tip: Adjustment is required on both ends, do not get rigid, try to mold. But never change who you are to impress your inlaws.

4. Unknown Expectations

The expectations your better half and your in-laws might have from you can be unrealistic. For example, waking up early to do some puja, traditional fasts, etc. If you will panic or get strained, then it can create chaos in your married life.

Pro tip: Talk out these tiny huddles

5. Lack of Personal Space

Challenges that almost every Girl face in a newlywed life
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After getting married a whole new family awaits you. You have the responsibility of taking care of their needs. In case you are not staying in a joint family, you might have to visit your in-laws frequently, or they might visit you. Spending quality time with the in-laws, taking care of their needs, and managing this with professional commitments, can leave you with no time with yourself. So, sometimes all you need is some quality time… ALL ALONE!

Pro Tip: Get out for a few ‘chores’ or go out for a coffee to relax.

6. Weird feeling of being a Grown Up

All of a sudden, everything appears to be more practical, and important, especially from the sides of responsibilities and maturity, that everyone has been expecting from you since a long time. This is the time when you understand what all have you been missing out on until now.

Pro Tip: Talk to your childhood friends meet them to make you feel like you were.

7. Miss your Home

5. Unknown Expectations The expectations your better half and your in-laws might have from you can be irresistible immediately after getting married. For example, waking up early to do some puja, traditional fasts, etc. If you will panic or get strained, then it can create chaos in your married life.
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No matter how good your in-laws are but, no one can replace the place of your parents in your life. A girl can take all the above-stated challenges easily, but what about not seeing her mommy every day in the morning, and that evening tea with daddy in the garden, stupid little fights with the siblings. But, there is nothing to worry, it’s just a matter of time then, you soon get used to missing them and adjusting to your new life!

Pro Tip: Call your mom as and when you feel like it. They are missing you as badly. Go and meet them if you feel too homesick.